Things to stop feeling shame about in 2023
A list curated by my instagram audience, who also share a similar story of healing, overcoming heartbreak, and finding selfhood
I’m trying something new: a short newsletter mid-week sharing a little list of reminders created for you, by you.
On Sunday I polled my instagram audience and asked them what they believed we should no longer feel shame for. (if you don’t follow me already, I’d love to be IG friends! follow me here). They shared some incredible insights, and I’ve compiled their responses with my own to make a little master list of what not to be ashamed of in 2023.
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I hope you can draw on this in times of doubt as a way to cultivate confidence or return to your place of empowered living.
20 Things to no longer feel shame for in 2023:
Decisions you made in the past
Staying in a relationship for longer than you should have
Loving someone who wasn’t right for you
Saying no to things
Inheriting mental illness
Being single
Changing careers
Moving cities
Enjoying life while experiencing mental illness
Having and expressing sexual desires
Thinking about past lovers or old relationships
Having many pets and no life partner
Honoring your needs
Healing mentalities that include heathen mentalities
Disagreeing with friends or family
Crying in public
Your mental health
Going slow in relationships
Asking for what you need
Human be-ing instead of human do-ing
I’m wondering if this is something you’d like to see more of—a little mid-week list of reminders that we can contribute to and reflect on?
If there is anything you’d like to add to this list, drop it in the comments. This list can grow and grow all year long, if we let it <3
Additionally, if there is a list you’d like to see next week, let me know in the comments, too.
Thank you, as always for being here.
I'll add quitting to the list. I love to quit things when they aren't right for me and have so many conversations with people who are afraid to quit and shamed when they do or that they even want to.
Ugh “loving someone who wasn’t right for you”. Too real. I’m releasing the shame. I can’t recall if it is on the list but “loving someone when I know better” - sometimes attention is just so nice even when I know they aren’t the person for me and make it obvious that they have no plans to treat me properly. Releasing the shame...NOW.